by Eric Blair |
Before we dive into why Phubbing is Robbing you of great relationships, it is important to also know how the word came into existence and why it is important to be aware.
According to techopedia, “Phubbing is a term created by the combination of the words phone and snubbing. It refers to a person interacting with their phone (or other device) rather than interacting with a human being.” Sound familiar?
After reading the definition, you realize that you have most probably been guilty of the act and for some this is the norm when they find themselves in social gatherings. So why is it important to stop Phubbing?
If the definition was not sufficient in explaining why you need less phubbing in your life maybe the examples we are about to discuss would help. Imagine going into a bar to meet real people after spending so much time on the internet at home and at work only to meet more people looking down on their phones rather than interacting with real people. This is no longer an imagination as this is happening all over the world today.
Going on dates have also been ruined by Phubbing and now, another complication has been added to the going-on-dates process as now you have to worry about phubbing. Imagine being on a date and suddenly the gentleman/lady starts to star down on their phones for minutes. Usually, this will be a concrete way of saying “You are boring mate” however many people do this unconsciously as it has not become a habit regardless of how they feel. To these folks, everyone would appear boring.
Relationships have been hit hard the most in our opinion and now, the easiest way to not be a part of a group is to phub. By doing this, you exclude yourself from any meaningful social interaction and after a while, it is possible to lose vital social skills as a result of phubbing. Furthermore, friends would no longer see the need to invite you around as a result of phubbing since it would be much better to just buzz you on Facebook or see you via Skype.
A Boyfriend and girlfriend are having an argument, and for one of them to show that they do not care about the conversation anymore, they star phubbing. As such communication is affected, and with time, that will be the remedy to disagreements in the relationship which is = no progress made to tackle issues. You may not know but this has been one of the top reasons for breakups in recent years among younger people.
So be conscious of the act, remember the importance of social interaction, do not bother going out if you know you would Phub all night and learn to appreciate the people you see around you. Please leave your comments below. Cheers.